Building your support team for carers
Connecting with the right people and having the support of those people around you can make a big difference Your support team might consist of one or two people or several people, depending on your needs.
When a family member or friend receives a diagnosis of multiple sclerosis (MS), it can evoke a wide range of emotions and concerns. During life's challenging moments, it is completely normal to go back and forth between various emotions. Some days will be tough, while others will feel easier. It can be helpful to acknowledge that you may experience a multitude of emotions, as this awareness can assist you in navigating difficult times.
Emotions that people may encounter include:
Some people believe they need to "stay strong" and avoid talking about how they really feel. Many of us are taught to avoid talking about difficult things and prefer to keep conversations in a safe space. Others may worry about upsetting people by saying the wrong things or struggle to find the right words to describe their emotions.
One common response to challenging emotions is avoidance, often referred to as "burying your head in the sand." While it may seem like it helps in the short term, pushing away these emotions can have negative consequences for your health and wellbeing over time. By identifying and accepting difficult and negative emotions, you will be able to look after yourself and look after others.
Here are some tips for understanding and expressing your emotions more effectively:
Remember: difficult feelings often travel in packs. When fear and loss turn up, they often bring along guilt, shame and disconnection. It is normal, and it’s okay to experience all these emotions, because, for many families and friends, a life-changing diagnosis affects them as well as the person.
Building your resilience is crucial to enabling you to provide the best support and maintain your emotional wellbeing. There are many ways to develop resilience, and plenty of accessible information and resources are available. Find an approach that resonates with you and seems achievable. If one method doesn't suit you, don't hesitate to explore alternatives.
Simple steps can serve as an excellent starting point. Consider these common key elements of resilience and select one to work on:
It can feel challenging to focus on your emotional wellbeing due to lack of time and energy. Getting back to the basics may help you feel more in control of your emotional wellbeing:
Other simple strategies for self-care:
If you find it difficult to cope or are going through a tough period, remember that support is available:
Reach out to MS Plus at 1800 042 138 for assistance.
Contact Lifeline at 13 11 14 for 24-hour crisis support.
Always remember that it is okay to experience a range of emotions. Prioritising your emotional well-=being and seeking support when necessary are crucial steps in navigating this journey.
More resources are available in our Carers, Family & Friends Toolkit